Pleasure is a holistic experience, and can include anything from gentle caressing to oral stimulation, fantasy, relaxation, connection and even joy. Perhaps it’s time to redefine pleasure, including sexual pleasure, to be less focused on PIV and more focused on safer, more empowering forms of play.

Sex and sexuality are healthy, integral parts of being human. Our interests, desires, and the ways we find pleasure are as varied as any other personality trait—some people love pizza, while others prefer lasagna. In a healthy world, there is no need to “yuck” someone else’s “yum.”